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7
Secrets of Success
by
John
James Santangelo C.Ht.
1.
Clarity
KNOW exactly what it is that
you desire in your life.
Clarity is Power! The challenge is that most don't know
what it is they do want. And “If your goals are
not being fulfilled, you're fulfilling someone else's.”
Think about it. How long have you dreamed of somewhere
other than the path you're on now? The answer to lead
a life of fulfillment and purpose, is to decide now what
direction you'd like to map out for your life? You see,
your brain only does one thing 24 hours a day… it
moves you in the direction of your dominant thoughts.
So, what do you focus upon daily? Regret, shame, guilt,
blame, lack of abundance? If this is your daily focus,
guess what, it's what the universe will provide for you.
It doesn't have discretionary ability, it moves you in
the direction of what you focus upon . Emerson said, “You
become what you think about, all day long.” So,
choose carefully!
But how do I choose you ask, and ask properly? Well, there
is a simple formula. You ask in the three P's. Personal,
Present tense, Positive. That's it, easy isn't it? Not
really. If it were, everyone would already have all they
desire. The key is to maintain your focus upon what it
is you desire moment to moment! Even when things seem
to not be going your way, remain focused! This is the
key. We'll expand on this formula in greater detail later.
For now, just imagine if anything were possible, what
would you really like to be, do, or have in your life?
This simple act of manifesting is the foundation for all
success, abundance, and prosperity.
2.
Action
DO something right NOW before
you leave this page.
“Every
action generates a force of energy that returns to us
in like kind…
What we sow is also what we reap.” Deepak Chopra
Action
is the primary vehicle to which all your dreams, goals,
and desires are manifested. Nothing in the universe has
been created unless it was first initiated by a thought.
One major law of physics, law meaning "rule of action",
is cause and effect. Every thought, word and deed is a
cause set in motion, which sets off a wave of energy throughout
the universe. "For every action, there is an equal
and opposite reaction." Every cause, whether individual
or collectively, results in an effect, from the microcosm
to the macrocosm. For anything to be created or occur
in the physical world, something must cause an event to
take place. There's a very specific relationship with
this law, it is the law of motion. In order for an object
or event to move from it's existing location or reality,
something must exert enough pressure, and come in direct
contact with that object for it to be modified or changed.
So how does this apply in your life? In order for you
to manifest anything in your life, you must exert some
kind of pressure and make contact with your goal to create
movement and produce a result. Action, in of itself, is
a neutral characteristic. It is not concerned with what
or who exerts the pressure. Action is the characteristic
of movement, not direction. Action coupled with direction
creates a desired result. One without the other becomes
a useless tool. Clarity is power. But without action,
it's just potential power. The simple act of movement
or energy is the determining factor in the success of
your goals.
The factor in determining the results you receive will
be when you decide to take action. It is a cause set in
motion and energy placed behind your goal. One major condition
which stops most people in deciding to take action is
FEAR! Fear stops more people from reaching their dreams
than any other factor. The fear of rejection, fear of
ridicule, fear of failure, even the fear of success. Yes,
success! What happens if I succeed, then what? What will
I have to give up in order to have this goal?
General
Patton once said, “Fear kills more people than death,
death kills us but once and we don't even know it. Fear
kills us over and over again, suddenly at times, brutally
at others.”
Because
there is a direct consequence for every causal relationship,
deciding not to take action is also an action set in motion.
The consequence of in-action can be more detrimental than
the effect of the action taken. Your ability to risk is
directly proportionate to the risk you face at every moment.
Risk = Results! The connective relationship between risk
and results is action. It is the bridge which connects
the two concepts together. It's not that we don't know
what to do, it's that we're in fear of taking risks to
define what it is that we do want or desire. Taking action
IS the only way to succeed in ANY area of your life.
3.
Awareness
Notice if it's working or not, be aware
of your results.
“Awareness
alone can create immense transformations.” John
James Santangelo
What
IS working? This one question encapsulates the entire
concept of awareness. What do you focus upon? What is
working or what isn't working? When you know your outcome
and have taken action… is it working? In the area
of your life you decide to focus upon, are you aware of
it working or not? What results have you produced? Many
individuals focus on the failure of the process. When
you consistently focus on what is going wrong, what didn't
work, or what failed, you'll produce more of those results.
Let's look at it from another perspective, and view failure
as just another result. It's just one answer to the same
question. A question which has many answers. One answer,
one result. In the bigger picture, all you have done is
produced a result, just not the one you intended. Once
you know what it is you desire, all the opportunities
will begin to appear, and it's just a matter of becoming
aware of them.
For example; if you've ever bought a car and been out
driving around, have you noticed how many other people
are driving the same car? Did they all go out and buy
the same car on the same day? No! It's because you just
opened up your awareness to that particular object of
desire. Again, once you know what it is you want, the
universe will provide for you all the opportunities to
help you manifest it.
Neurologically, we are taking in two million bits of information
per second into our brains through our five senses. Our
brain then distills it down to just seven bits of information,
plus or minus two. Imagine all the information that is
lost, and all the opportunities we miss because we can
only process such a small amount at one time. Because
we are also governed by the pain/pleasure principle, our
body's primary intention is to avoid pain, rather than
to achieve pleasure. So we tend to look for pain avoiding
strategies first. We've been conditioned over the course
of our lives to become aware of what doesn't work and
avoid the pain of having to deal with the disappointment
of failure. We tend to give up after a couple of attempts.
Once you have a clear vision or purpose in mind, your
brain goes to work to gather all the available information
it requires to manifest that goal. Because there's so
much information being made available to you all at once,
(the solution as well as the challenges), all you need
to do is become aware of the information presented to
you. Most people focus upon the challenges in their lives,
so guess what… what you focus upon becomes your
reality. When you focus upon what's not working for you,
you produce more of what's not working. Very few people
view failure as feedback to their goal or purpose. After
all, it's just information. It's just one result. Once
you turn your focus upon what IS working, you'll become
aware of all the information you need to fulfill your
goal. Awareness is a choice. Even the finest information
is useless without a purpose. Know your outcome, take
massive action, and notice what is working. Your greatest
intuitive asset will be to “Know thy self”
your inside and outside world.
4.
Flexibility
If it's not working, DO something
different, ANYTHING!
“Insanity;
Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different
results.” Albert Einstein
Once
you know your outcome, have taken action, and become aware
of your results; Ask yourself, did I produce the results
I intended? If so, congratulations! If not, now what?
Many people get stuck at this point, usually trying a
couple times at most and then giving up. (Do you know
what the definition of trying is? - Excusing failure in
advance.) This is where your flexibility comes into play.
In order to achieve your desired outcome you must be flexible
in your approach. Most likely your desired results will
take a couple of attempts. Statistically, you probably
won't succeed the first time, harsh but real. Given this,
how many times will you continue in the face of adversity
until you succeed? This is determination! Along with the
same approach, if you continue producing the same undesired
results, it won't matter how many times you try, you won't
achieve the results you intended, because nothing HAS
changed.
As I said before, you're going to produce A result! It
just may not be the one you intended. In order for you
to produce your intended result, you must be flexible
and change your approach, do something different! This
one simple concept will lead you towards success. Undoubtedly,
you've experienced this a number of times, maybe within
a relationship? Where you keep running into the same challenges
over and over again, only to make the assumption that
it must be the other person or this must be the way relationship
are. No, it's not! You just haven't found the way it will
workout yet.
Begin to open up and develop your awareness of the results
you produce and become flexible, change your approach.
Become aware of your old limiting beliefs and boundaries.
Know they are just old programs which were formed at a
very young age. 85% of your beliefs and programs have
been formed at the age of eight years old. The other 15%
are learned by the time we're 21. Some are structured
to keep you safe while others keep you from living your
dreams. Beliefs you picked up from your parents, friends,
and teachers, beliefs which weren't yours. They no longer
hold any validity in your life unless you hold on to and
support them. Buying into these old beliefs holds them
in place, and you'll usually find evidence to support
these limiting beliefs.
Recognizing these patterns can be a challenge in of itself,
because 90% of what you do is unconscious. As you learn
to become aware of them, you'll be able to distinguish
between the ones that are working for you and the ones
that aren't. And when you can make the distinction between
the two, you gain power over those patterns and notice
more often what IS working. To become aware is the start
of your flexibility. Being flexible is simply being aware
of what's not working, and then doing something different,
anything. Achieving great success comes to those who can
be continually flexible in their approach. Believe you
can achieve success, abundance, and prosperity. Know it's
all possible and keep on doing what does work until you
find the way, the path to your success.
5.
Modeling
What do you require to succeed with this
goal?
Have you ever witnessed a baby learning to learn to walk?
They watch and listen to everything being done and said
involved with that particular behavior. This is the same
way success can be achieved, by modeling, by observing
an individual already a success in the field of your interest.
This is the very thing that is required to succeed in
life. Why bother with the trial and error process? Most
of us will run the same patterns of failure over and over
again by nature, (by the way, there is no failure, only
results). So being able to successfully model someone's
abilities and capabilities is HOW true success can be
accomplished in a very short time. In fact, the seventh
secret involves surrounding yourself with a mastermind
group of experts in your field of interest. Noticing what
they do, how they speak, the beliefs about themselves
and their environment, the particular language they use
to influence those around them are all part of the process
of modeling.
Behavior modeling involves observing and mapping the successful
processes which underlie an exceptional performance of
some type. It is the process of taking a complex event
or series of events and breaking it into small enough
chunks so that it can be recapitulated in some way. The
purpose of behavior modeling is to create a pragmatic
map or 'model' of that behavior which can be used to reproduce
or simulate some aspect of that performance by anyone
who is motivated to do so. The goal of the behavior modeling
process is to identify the essential elements of thought
and action required to produce the desired response or
outcome. As opposed to providing purely correlative or
statistical data, a 'model' of a particular behavior must
provide a description of what is necessary to actually
achieve a similar result. (Robert Dilts, NLPU.com)
NLP
or Neuro-Linguistic Programming modeling procedures involve
finding out about how the brain ("Neuro") is
operating, by analyzing language patterns ("Linguistic")
and non-verbal communication. The results of this analysis
are then put into step-by-step strategies or programs
("Programming") that may be used to transfer
the skill to other people and content areas.
Imagine if you had the ability to model an expert in your
field of interest! How much more successful would you
become, and how much quicker would you learn to succeed?
Most of all, how much more would you enjoy the process
of success?
6.
Patience
Detach yourself from your goal, and be grateful
for all that is.
When you learn to let go, trust, detach, and be patient,
then and only then the universe will provide for you.
Infinite patience is a sign of trust. Infinite patience
produces immediate results! A favorite quote of mine is,
“Patience - waiting with expectancy.” Think
about the dichotomy in this statement. How can you wait
if you are expecting? Expectation comes from wanting and
if you want then you are attached. When you let go and
trust, you are aligning yourself with God and the universe.
Because God's universe is abundant in all that you desire
and could possibly imagine, anything you place your Intention
and Attention upon, will come into fruition when you let
go and surrender to the process. When you're attached
to your outcome, that is, when you make it the only possibility,
you shut out all other opportunities, some of which may
be bigger, better, and more beautiful. We normally call
this is ‘good luck,' but good luck is nothing more
than preparedness meeting opportunity. Learn to let go
of your attachment to the things in your life. Set your
intentions/outcomes and be free of any concerns whether
it shows up or not. When you can do this, you'll find
that all you do desire will begin to manifest into your
life and just show up from what will seem like the ‘unknown.'
Which is the field of all possibilities!
When your heart and soul are filled with gratitude, you
cannot possibly focus on what is missing. Saying thank
you for all that you have, is the ultimate expression
of love you can exhibit to God for all that is. Nothing
could be a greater expression of gratitude than to thank
the universe for all it has provided to you for all that
you ask of it. An ‘attitude of gratitude' is a channel
wide open for any and all that is good to come your way.
It opens the door to success, good health, and abundance.
By keeping the channel open, you clear the path for abundance
to consistently flow to you at all times. Consequently,
when the channel is closed, it seems nothing good comes
your way. Isn't that true? When we are in thank-less mode,
nothing happens, no good-luck! As most call it, good fortune!
The truth is, there is no such thing as good luck. There
is just opportunity and possibility.
7.
Mastermind group
Surround yourself only with like-minded energy.
When is one plus one equal three? When two minds come
together to take action towards a specific goal! There
is a power available to you when you choose properly the
synergy of the individuals of a Master Mind group. Napoleon
Hill wrote about the ‘Master Mind' group in what
is known as the bible for success “Think And Grow
Rich.” “No two minds ever come together without,
thereby, creating a third invisible, intangible force
which may be likened to a third mind.”
There is nothing in this world which you can achieve solely
by yourself. He states, the Master Mind may be defined
as; “coordination of knowledge and effort, in spirit
of harmony, between two or more people for the attainment
of a definite purpose.” The accumulation of wealth
and prosperity comes to those who take action making the
best decisions possible with the best possible knowledge
available to them at the time. The most successful individuals
have achieved their success with the guidance and support
of others that either have the knowledge they require
or the support along the path such as a coach, or a financial
planner.
In the quantum field of possibility, the limitless universe,
everything we can imagine, everything we desire, everything
that will be, already exits. “Matter and energy
can neither be created nor destroyed, it can only be re-arranged.”
Within that field of possibility, any thought can be planted
and allowed to grow. Because we are all part of the same
universe, we all have access to the same data-base of
information and energy. Forming a master-mind group is
a powerful way to tap into that data-base of information,
ideas, and concepts, with the support of others. A mastermind
group is a "meeting of the minds". Group members
meld their knowledge, skills, and experiences together
to become a synergetic force that benefits each member
of the group.
Benefits
you'll receive from forming a MasterMind group;
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Experience, skill and confidence
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Real progress in your business and personal life
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An instant and valuable support network
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A sense of shared endeavor - there are others out there!
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Design projects as you truly desire, not as you've been
told they "should" be
I'm
sure there are many more strategies you can add to this
list,
and I'd love to hear from you if you have other ideas........
